Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Okay. Here's the deal until I can figure out a better way to do this..... Please leave a comment the way you always do with your thoughts or memories of Mom and I will be collecting them for Dad. Please also remember that this is a surprise for Dad for Christmas. I would really appreciate it if you could keep from saying anything!! If you for some reason are unable to post a comment, please feel free to e-mail me tarahooper@sbcglobal.net or if you are an avid facebooker you can find me there and message me that way as well. Please spread the word to others that I have been unable to reach. I would like to gather as many as possible by Christmas. I know this will bless Dad in so many ways and I am excited to read the stories and memories as well. Thank you all so much for what you have done for the Hooper family in the last 9 months. You all are appreciated so much more than you will ever know.
Blessings,
Tara

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Mom's Memorial Service

I forgot to mention that Mom's Memorial Service will be next Saturday, October 24th at 11:00am here in Jackson at Grace Fellowship. If you need directions please ask for them by e-mailing me tarahooper@sbcglobal .net
or you can get a map online
The church's address is
8040 S.Hwy 49
Jackson, Ca. 95642
Thanks.

Mom has gone home........

I don't know how to begin this. Tears fill my ears as I type. Everything I can think of to describe the woman Mom was does not pay her attribute. So I am going to steal Leanne Christie's post from Facebook..... her words were great.........

Maxine is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs with no fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule when she gives instruction. Maxine carefully watches all that goes on in her household and does not have to bear the consequences of laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her; their are many virtuous women in the world, but you Maxine, surpass them all!

Mom passed away this morning at 11:10. We all stood by her bedside singing her favorite songs she used to sing to the grandkids. Harmonies filled the air and peace was around us all. I truly felt the Lord's presence as he came to take his child home with him. Michael led us all in "How lovely is you dwelling place. Oh Lord Almighty." As we sang the chorus, "Better is one day in you courts, better is one day in your house, better is one day in your courts, than thousands elsewhere." She took her final breath. It was so very peaceful. I am so incredibly thankful to have known and call her mom for the last five years. She really was the perfect Proverbs 31 woman.
Mom, if you could read this, I would want to say thank you for blessing my life, giving me such an amazing husband and family to be a part of. You always had a song to share with the kids and I believe you will be looking down on all the grandkids, placing songs in their hearts for many years to come. I love you so much and wish I could have said that to you more often. But I know you know how much you were loved. Love is what held you here and loved is how you went home. Save my spot next to you in Heaven. I can't wait to meet with you again.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

So close now........

This is the blog I have been dreading. I don't even want my fingers to type these next words. Mom has hours left now. She is transitioning quickly. Her lungs are starting to fill with fluid and her breathing a bit more labored now. I look at her now knowing these are the last few days with her and I just fall apart inside. We all stood around her bedside tonight and sang her the song she always sings to the grandkids. I wish I could sing it for you all. Maybe some of you have heard her sing it.......
We love you
We love you
Sing to (insert grandchild's name) we love you
We love you
We love you
Sing to (name) we love you
We also went around and each of us mom's recited the little "poem" she also made up for each one of our kids. So in turn, we made one up for her tonight. This was a happy time. We all laughed and it was fun. After we were done, some stuck around her bedside and cried. My son was one of these. Reality is setting in with some of the younger kids. Warren (Mary's son) was also there with Mary crying. My heart broke for my son and for Warren. It's a rare thing to see these two cry.
As I write this, some of us are taking shifts to stay awake with mom and let the rest of us know if anything changes and we need to come back to the house.
Monty's three girls will be here Thursday. I pray mom can hold on until then so they can say their goodbye's.
I'm sorry if this is scattered. My thoughts are not together and I'm having trouble writing this. I apologize. I will post more as things progress.
Tara

Sunday, October 11, 2009

So Sorry

Hey everyone-
So sorry it's been so long. Mom and Dad just move over here from Garden Valley on friday. So far, it has been great to all be together. Monty flew out from Oklahoma on Tuesday, Mark Hooper flew in Thursday and Matthew and Sheela drove up Friday. Mikala has extended her stay until next weekend and with that, all seven kids (plus spouses and children) are here! It's amazing to see all of us together, in one place for a common reason....... to spend what time we have left with mom.
Mom isn't doing well. Her breathing has become labored, we made the decision to put her on oxygen last night to help her with that. Sheela has been such a blessing..... for those of you who don't know, she is a nurse! Having her there has been a huge help for those of us who don't know what to do! mom is sleeping for the most part of a day most days. She is exhibiting beginning signs of her internal organs and system shutting down. Blue spots are appearing on her feet and legs which tells us things are shutting down. She's not eating a lot, and sometimes doesn't respond to questions or comments made to her unless you repeat them multiple times.

Watching this unfold before my eyes is so very difficult. As I was there with everyone last night, I stood by mom's bedside and stroked her hair. I watched everyone talking, the kids running about and thought to myself, "Wow, my kids really don't know what's going on. That they are losing a grandmother." Tears came to my eyes and I had to quickly push that thought aside. But throughout this, the closeness of the family is so vital. I realize I am blessed to be apart of the Hooper family. As I was leaving, I was saying my goodbye's and sought out Morgan, Makenzie and Bethany. I found them in a separate room, practicing a song. I was invited in and they sang a three part harmony song Morgan has been writing for Jama. I stood in amazement, listening to my nieces sing harmonies that are beyond them vocally and was wow-ed by the lyrics and feeling that came from within each one of them. As we drove home, I thought to myself, what a testimony Maxine is leaving behind. She has touched so many, taught us all so much and we all have a part of her within us. I am most grateful for this.
So, if you haven't come up to see mom yet and would like to, I encourage you all to do so now. it is my belief that she doesn't have much more time here with us..... a month at best. Thank you all again, for your prayers and thoughts for the family at this hard time. But we all know that Christ has used mom in ways we will never fully comprehend.
Blessings,
Tara

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

New News

Well,
Mom is not doing well. She is slowly getting a little worse every day. We were there on Saturday visiting and she slept basically the whole time we were there. She woke just in time as we were preparing to leave. She struggles get around and is very limited. Mentally she has deteriorated much and stares blankly around alot. This is very hard for me to write. I don't want to admit all this but also feel I need to be honest with everyone so no one is mislead.

Dad has made a decision to move over to Jackson to allow us to help him and so we can all spend what time we have left with her. A very nice man in our church (Grace Fellowship) has offered Mom and Dad his house while it is on the market to sell. I spoke with this man last night and we will be getting Mom and Dad over here by the end of the month. This is exciting but hard at the same time. All I can ask is that you all continue to pray like never before. Please pray for strength for us all as we embark on this new season. Once Mom and Dad get over here, I will post more.
Love you all,
Tara

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Lending a hand....

Hello all,
I thought this would be a good opportunity for all of you who continuely ask, "what can we do to help", here is were you can come in! We are all getting together as one unit to help Dad clean up the house and the property. This is something that is a bit overdue but now is as good a time as any to start.
This weekend, a few of us will be going over to Garden Valley to start what will be a big "clean up party." This might not be for everyone but I thought I would throw it out there to see who responds. We could use all the help we can get and don't worry, this weekend will not be the only time it will be happening. So, if you would like to volunteer some of your time, please let me know. You can email me: tarahooper@sbcglobal.net or you can call our house (209)223-2219. Dad and I will be making up a list of things to do there and I would be more than willing to go over them with you through either of these methods of contact. If you can't come, you can still continue to lift us all up in prayer and for others to come forward and volunteer! That would be much appreciated!
As for those of you who contributed to the scrapbook I made by leaving comments, Mom and Dad were truly touched as well as other members of the Hooper Family. Thank you so much for touching Mom in this way. We love you all. Thank you again.............
Tara